A wedding unites two people in marriage, and is a ceremony that is worthy of a celebration. And as celebrations go, the more people there are, the merrier they become. It makes sense to want to invite everyone you know.
However, this may prove to be a challenge when it comes to the resources you have to work with for the wedding. Budget constraints may only allow for a certain number of guests, or the venue that you have your heart set on may be too small for the size of the party you have in mind.
So how do you decide whose name should be on the wedding guest list of invitees?
1. Determine the budget
What you want and what you can afford may be on two parallel planes altogether. It’s important to come up with a reasonable budget that you and your partner (or in some cases, your parents) can afford. Weddings may seem simple to plan at first, but once you really get into the preparations, you’ll realize just how much everything amounts to. You’d also need to keep in mind that hiring a wedding band for your reception would mean added heads to the total number of guests that will be catered to.
2. Finalize the venue
Having the venue finalized will provide you that big picture that you need in order to have everything fall into place. If you’re set on a beach wedding, decide on what beach you want to have it on. It may have a wide shoreline that’s perfect for holding a big event, or it may be a strip of sand by a quiet cove that can only host a number of people and props. That will give you the head count you need to fill out your guest list.
3. Start with the non-negotiables
These would include the immediate family, and your closest friends. In other words, these are the people who you would never dream of not having on your big day. The immediate family is a given, of course, but your closest friends make the cut simply because they have been your support in life and in your journey as a couple.
4. Have a set of rules in place.
Once you have the non-negotiable guests counted, agree on a set of rules. For example, you may want to invite your co-workers, but each of you has more than a handful of colleagues on the team. You can go with having just your boss invited, or a couple of your closest friends from work, or even just those who you’ve worked with for over a couple of years. You may also decide on having kids invited to the wedding, or agree on not inviting friends you’ve only known for less than one year. The choice is up to you – just be sure that the rules are something you both agree on with the thought of making things easier for you in deciding who to invite.
Once you have your guest list drafted, it’s time to send out those invitations. Including a note to RSVP would let you know in advance the number of people you’ve chosen for your wedding party that can actually attend. Granted, they may also cancel at the last minute due to some unforeseeable events, but this gives you a rough estimate on how many you can expect. If that leaves you with a number of seats vacant, then you can add in some people who you had wanted to invite but had to leave out. Or you can simply save the money and have it used elsewhere in the preparations.
At the end of the day, it would be about you, your partner, and the people you want to celebrate with taking part in a celebration that unites two hearts in love.
Tara Bernal currently writes wedding articles for The Saturns, one of the top best wedding bands in Glasgow and across Scotland. Aside from aiming to see as much of the world as possible, she also likes breakfast food, piano pieces, boat rides, and mocha lattes.