Your wedding day is one of the most significant events of your life. One that couples often envision spending with their closest friends and family. When one of our loved ones has passed, it’s natural to miss them even more during such big events in our lives. Many look for ways of honoring their memory. This is particularly true for those wishing to pay tribute to their Mother, the person who probably would have wanted to be the most involved in your special day.
There are plenty of wonderful ways of honoring and incorporating your Mother’s memory during your entire wedding day. If you’re looking for options, you can use some (or all) of these ideas to help celebrate and reminisce your Mother’s memory.
Honoring Your Mother’s Memory
Create A Memorial Table
There are guestbook tables and hors d’oeuvre tables. Therefore, creating a memorial table would be perfectly acceptable and appropriate. Chances are your guests will treasure the sentiment and will also be thinking of your Mom on your wedding day. On your memorial table you can place a photo, some candles or a lantern, and write something special in her memory. There are likely to be many people at your wedding who knew your Mother. The great idea is to provide a way of guests to write little notes of their own memories and well wishes as well.
Wear Items That Belonged to Her
One of the more well-known wedding traditions says a bride is supposed to wear “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” in order to bring good luck. You can wear something that belonged to your Mother while keeping within this tradition. However, don’t feel limited to just one item. Some brides choose to wear their Mother’s wedding dress while others wear a headpiece or some kind of jewelry. There might be more than one of her belongings that you’d like to wear, and that’s fine too. A locket with your Mothers photo or a broach is another way of keeping her close to your heart during your wedding.
Leave An Open Seat During The Ceremony
It’s natural to feel as though your Mother deserves a seat, even if she isn’t able to take part of the ceremony physically. If you would like to honor her memory and make her feel more a part of your ceremony, then you can arrange a seat to be left unoccupied in the front row just for her. To make her seat a bit more meaningful, you can place a photo or a bouquet, or some other memento on the chair. These items will give her more of a presence, and you’ll have her spirit right there among the rest of your guests.
Give a Toast to Her Memory
Weddings are often full of guests giving their blessings through toasts and speeches. You can certainly use this as an opportunity to bring attention to your Mom’s memory. You, (or someone else), can let everyone know how missed she is, and how she would have loved to have been there. If there was anything she ever said about marriage, or how she envisioned it, you can bring that up as well. You can talk about the influence she had in your life, especially in teaching you how to love, or read a letter she wrote to you as a child. If you’d rather not make a speech, then lighting a candle and sharing a moment of silence in her memory is a simple, yet touching, alternative.
Incorporate Some of Her Favorite Things
You and your guests can also remember your Mom by incorporating some of her favorite things into your wedding. If your Mom had a favorite flower, you can use that in your wedding decorations or your bouquet. If there’s a Mother’s song you know was a particular favorite of hers, then you can have it sung or played during the reception for everyone to dance to. If there’s a particular food, or dessert food that holds a special memory between you two, or one that you just know she loved, you can serve it at your wedding. These personal touches will make her feel more a part of your wedding. Keep in mind so that it’s done in a way that is meant to celebrate her memory, and not overpower the occasion with sadness.
Losing a parent is never easy, but you can still make them a part of your day with these touching options. With these ideas, you’ll be able to party at your wedding and honor your Mother in a style that won’t dampen the mood, but rather show how much she’s missed in a celebratory fashion. Your wedding should be a day of festivity, the way your Mother would have wanted it.
Groomsmen gifts have gone from being generic (and tacky) items that gets dumped to the bottom of an attic storage box, to unique and functional products that groomsmen actually make good use out of. With the increasing interest that grooms now have to giving the best groomsmen gifts that they could possibly find, the next question would be exactly when to give them to the intended recipients. After all, these gifts can be anything from wedding day socks to an all-expense-paid trip to Las Vegas.
So when do you give your groomsmen gifts?
1. When personally handing the invitation
Giving groomsmen gifts as early as when the invitations are handed out isn’t really common, but it can certainly be done. The good thing about doing so is that you get it out of the way early, which leaves you with one less thing you have to worry about as the wedding approaches. However, it may be best to get a confirmation from the intended receiver regarding attending the wedding and being a groomsmen. That way, there’d be no need to return the gift in case the groomsman won’t be available.
2. At the rehearsal dinner
Rehearsal dinners are typically held right after the wedding rehearsal a day before the wedding. This is a great time to give gifts that are intended to be used during the wedding ceremony itself, such as cuff links, bow ties, groomsmen undershirts, or the most commonly neglected item – socks. Ensure that your groomsmen arrive at the wedding venue looking all dapper and put-together with groomsmen gifts that they can actually use and re-use.
3. During the Bachelor Party
Gifts that can be given during the bachelor party include those gifts that your buds can enjoy at least a couple of weeks before the wedding day. These gifts can even be extensions of the bachelor party, such as a weekend trip just for the guys at a nearby resort or golf range, or if you’re generous enough, a last bout of testosterone getaways to the playing fields of Las Vegas.
4. An hour before the Wedding
Giving groomsmen gifts an hour before the wedding may not really seem practical considering that during that time, your groomsmen would already have been at the wedding venue all dressed up and ready to go, but it does have its advantages. First, you have all of your groomsmen in one place, making distribution a lot easier. Second, you’ve got something to occupy your attention for the next few minutes at least, which will surely help out with the pre-wedding jitters. Lastly, if your gifts are something for your groomsmen to wear during the ceremony, you’ll be assured that they won’t have forgotten it at home. Perfect.
5. At the wedding reception
The wedding reception is usually the last chance to give out groomsmen gifts – unless you really planned on mailing them out in which case, searching for cool groomsmen gifts online may be the best way to go to choose the most suitable ones. Functional yet creative items that your guys can use in their daily lives can be handed out during the reception. The downside to choosing this time to say your thanks with gifts, though, is that you’d be too busy, and having to track down your guys while the party’s underway can be a pain.
Groomsmen are, ideally, the best buddies in the groom’s life, and taking the time to pick out awesome presents for each of them makes your wedding day that much more memorable. Ensuring that the timing is right when the gifts are handed out makes all the difference when the items have specific purposes. So plan it out, and know that you’ve conveyed your gratitude to some of your best friends in one of the best ways you know how.
Every groom dreams about their wedding day ever since they are a little boy. Ok, back to reality. Most men don’t think about their wedding day until they decide to pop the question to his life partner. No it’s not something well planned out. So, we created a list of websites for grooms to visit. A variety list of websites for many different aspects of a wedding. Enjoy our list of 10 ultimate manly websites for grooms.
Ultimate Manly Websites
Hey grooms, you’re ready to pop the question. First, get ideas of what your future bride wants in a ring. She has to wear it the rest of her life. Get what she likes so that she likes you. Check out the the website of Blue Nile. Everything you need to know about engagement and wedding rings are in this site. Did you even know that your future wife wears two rings? In addition, all diamonds offered through Blue Nile are guaranteed to be conflict-free!
Men’s Wearhouse – No matter if you are a groom in a complete tuxedo, or sharp looking suit, or a dress shirt for your jeans, Man’s Wearhouse can help you with it. The best part about the website is the Build A Tux tool. Grooms can really get a good idea of selecting the perfect tux for their style.
The Groom’s List – The website offers a checklist to verify you don’t miss any important details. The bad is that you must register to read any of the content. However, all content is geared toward grooms only.
The Man Registry – The website offers great tips for grooms planning their weddings. However, we love the gift ideas for grooms and groomsmen offered on the site. See personalized sports gifts and unique stuff too.
The Plunge – They quote themselves as the unofficial best man. We love the content they offer just for grooms. Lots to read and you get great manly ideas. You can even setup reminders of important things you need to do.
Looking for music for the Mother son dance? Want to know what the popular wedding songs are to help select music with your fiancé? Check out My Wedding Songs’s song lists. Also find song lists by topic, top 10 lists and musician song lists.
If you’re like most men, then you’re tired already of talking about weddings. So, let’s talk about other great manly websites.
We love the manly website of The Art Of Manliness. The website has a great retro look and easy to navigate. It offers everything from grooming to health and fitness. They offer some really cool stuff just for men.
Most men like drinking beer. There has been an explosion in craft beer in America. If you want to learn more about the craft beers available around the USA, then check out Beer Advocate. They also have lists of craft breweries by State and beer events in your area.
We like to call Duluth Trading’s website a hard working man’s clothing store. They have underwear, henley’s, polos, pants, shoes and so much more.
With the popularity of TV show Duck Dynasty, there are less men shaving their faces to grow the long matching beards. For the rest of us, we need to shave. Maybe not every day but yes we shave. This is where Dollar Shave Club comes in. There’s nothing better than a close shave with a real razor (no electric shavers here). Subscribe to get new razors delivered to your home. Besides, have you payed attention to the price of razor blades?
Most men hate to go clothes shopping. This is where Trunk Club helps. They offer clothes delivered to your door based on your needs – casual, business and formal. The best part is you only pay for the clothes you keep. Look good for your wedding and every day thereafter.
Bonus website: A man is not defined by what he wears. However, I get compliments all the time for my wood watch. Yes, my Jord watch is made of REAL WOOD! Makes a great groom or groomsmen gift or to wear yourself.
Bonus website 2: Yes, the TV show Shark Tank featured the belts from Mission Belt. They make really cool belts and the technology in the belt is top notch.
There you have it. A list of 10 great manly websites for grooms planning their wedding and looking great. There are tons of websites we could have added to the list but just want to give kudos to the ones above doing it right. If you have any more, be sure to comment them in below for when we create a new list of manly wedding websites.
Not too many times do we get excited about gifts for Grooms and Groomsmen as many fall into the traditional ideas of flasks, knives, mugs and money clips. However, uniques gifts do exist to break the norm. We are big believers of watches as gifts for grooms and groomsmen. We have always promoted unique pocket watches. However, Jord has taken the stance of being different to a new stage. Jord offers a line of watches with wood wrist bands. Yes, that’s right – real wood!
Manly Gift Idea for Groom
Based in Missouri, my wood watch arrived a couple days after placing an order. Jord offers a unique approach to watches by getting away from metals and rubber by using REAL WOOD wrist watches. Their collection of watches include wood choices from around the world.
The watch I ordered arrived in a padded white box specifically sized just for a watch. Kudos for attention to the little details.
Here is a picture of the watch box.
Next came opening the box to see my prized gift. Before I get there. Let me tell you about what watch I selected. Being a huge movie buff, I head down to the local movie theater about twice a month. I can never see what time it is while in the movie. It’s not like I can pull out my phone to see what time it is, respectfully. Therefore, I selected a watch model that had a white face with black hands. In addition, I selected more of a cherry looking wood. The best part is that the timepiece is embedded right into the wood.
Then, the moment of truth.
Wow, is this watch awesome! Just had to take the watch out of the box to check it out. To my enjoyment, the watch actually really was made from real wood. Here’s a close-up of the watch face I chose.
Unfortunately, my wrists are not very big and I needed to remove some of the links. Jord recommended taking the watch to the local watch shop to get the links removed. However, I purchased two eye glass screwdrivers and removed the links myself. Three dollars was much less that taking to a watch specialist.
The watch was delivered on Friday and I did not take the watch out to the Vegas Strip until Sunday. You don’t have to believe me, but I actually received a compliment on the watch at a watch store – just proving the point of how really cool, personal and unique the watch is to wear.
It will be a true pleasure to help promote Jord to all of my followers, friends and family. I hope you do the same by promoting another U.S.A. based business.
See below of pictures of the watch on my wrist in front of the Bellagio and also at the Bellagio’s Conservatory.
For more information about Jord wood watches, visit their wood watches website.
In all reality, what the groom wears really depends upon the theme of the wedding. If the wedding is at an upscale five-star heel, then a tuxedo would be the most appropriate attire. However, if the wedding is a relaxed beach wedding, then sandals with dress pants and shirt would be most appropriate for the wedding day. Although the decision may be made by the bride as to the wedding theme, the groom still has a very important decision as to what to wear.
What A Groom Should Wear
A groom’s attire can be broken down into four categories: Very Formal, Formal, Semiformal and Informal. As mentioned above, the wedding theme will have the greatest influence as to the choice of attire. However, the time of day of the wedding is also another big influencer. Lastly, the wedding colors will also have a determination into what the groom wears on his wedding day.
Very Formal – Very formal weddings are typically morning or late evening weddings. The groom would wear a complete tuxedo including vest, white bow tie and tails, and shirt with striped trousers. The very formal wear is also commonly accompanied with a top hat, walking stick and gloves.
Formal – Fitting for a “black tie” event for the groom and groomsmen. The attire can be either a black tie or bow tie. The tuxedo also includes a vest or cummerbund. Rented formalwear can include the following: jacket, vest or cummerbund, pants, suspenders, shirt, cufflinks, tie, studs and shoes.
SemiFormal – This is where a bit of personal taste and fashion meld into the formal arena. Color can be infused into the formal style in the tie, cummerbund, vest and also the shoes. The groom can also add fashionable suspenders accent to the outfit. Current fashions include colorful jackets and pants to add a personal groom’s flair to the wedding.
Informal – Informal can start the chart on the high end with a suit. Dark suits are preferred in the black, gray and navy spectrums. A great tip is the material should match the season – flannel in winter and cotton in summer. Blazers can also be worn with jeans.
Points to know about Groom’s attire:
The colors selected for the groom and groomsmen should match
All attire should compliment the bridesmaids’ dresses
Formal wear should be rented a minimum three months in advance and measurements at least three weeks in advance
Cufflinks make for a fantastic accessory present for the groom
Be sure arrangements are made to return rented attire the day after the wedding as to not incur extra rental fees PER DAY
Shirt and jacket sleeves should end at the wrist bone
Grooms are typically forgotten about the day of the wedding. The main focus is and should be on the bride. However, there is more for the groom than just showing up. The day of the wedding is very stressful and full of to-dos. We suggest that grooms put together an overnight bag and stuff it in the car that will be at the wedding (if the scenario permits). This way, all of the groom’s personal items will be at the wedding and reception.
Groom’s Personal Checklist
Vows – What the groom says to the bride during the ceremony if the bridal couple will say your own. This is more than saying ‘I Do’ or ‘I Will’
Toasts – If the groom wants to offer a toast to his bride or to the bridal couple’s guests at the wedding reception.
The time has come – you’re ready to ask your best girl to marry you and make it official. Unfortunately, Hollywood has brainwashed us all into thinking that popping the question has to be over-the-top and perhaps even expensive. Yes, it would seem that most of us girls want elaborate wedding proposals, just so we can race home and tell our girlfriends all about it.
In reality, popping the question should be an intimate moment that is special to both of you. Whether you decide to ask her during a quiet dinner for two or propose in front of thousands of baseball fans, choosing the right spot and ambiance is important when you ask for her hand.
Unless you know your girlfriend will appreciate a flashy proposal, keeping it romantic between just the two of you is the best approach, one she will remember long after a public proposition. Before asking her to marry you, use this list of tips and hints to dream up fabulous wedding proposals that leave her speechless.
Guide To Wedding Proposals
The Dos and Don’ts of Wedding Proposal Ideas
Personalized wedding proposals: No girl wants a canned version of a tired, old proposal. Above all, don’t do anything you’ve seen in the movies no matter how much she swooned. This is your opportunity to make it special for her and show her that you know and love her! When the time comes for popping the question, choose her favorite spot, as long as it’s quiet, uncrowded, and romantic. She wants a magical day/night that she can share again and again, so it should be memorable. And never just say, “Will you marry me?” Tell her why you want her to marry you; personalize your proposal and let her know why she is so special to you!
Make the ambiance romantic:
Most guidelines on wedding proposals agree that no matter how big a sports fan your girlfriend is, asking her to marry you at a game is probably not the ideal way to go about things. After popping the question, there is no time to reflect or even whisper sweet nothings to her. Keep the chaos to a minimum, so that the two of you can properly discuss this momentous occasion. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can’t ask her at a sports game – maybe she’s the type of girl who would enjoy a thousand sets of eyes on her when you ask.
Furthermore, this doesn’t mean you have to focus on popping the question over candlelight, but the locale should be – at least – semi-secluded, away from loud restaurant music, gawking crowds, and family. (Always remember that asking her in front of her family or yours adds unneeded stress when popping the question.)
Show a little respect:
When discussing potential wedding proposals, you’ll probably meet countless people who think asking her parents for her hand is lame and outmoded. Maybe, but it shows you’re responsible and respectful of her parents and family. Sure, it’s not easy to discuss such a big step, but her parents will remember that you approached them long after. Plus, you don’t have to ask for her hand per se – use it as a way to encourage communication between the two newly merging families. It’s a great way to start working on your in-law relationships!
Make it a surprise:
You’ve undoubtedly discussed marriage prior to popping the question. The only thing that should come as a surprise is when you actually ask her to marry you. Previous discussions of merging your lives, including evaluating what’s important to both of you in life and love, is vital to the success of your marriage. If you haven’t talked about marriage prior to the proposal, you may want to brace yourself for a quizzical look followed by a hesitant maybe.
Choosing the ring:
Please don’t come unprepared to the proposal. Many women expect to have a ring on this night. It’s not that we need something flashy and expensive to make it real; it’s just that it helps cement your commitment and lets us know you’re ready to take the plunge.
However, if your girl is the type who wants to pick and/or design her own ring, you should have discussed marriage well in advance. She knows it’s coming, and is happy to say yes without hardware in hand. But just take her ring shopping as soon as possible after popping the question!
Wedding Proposals from the Heart
Asking your girlfriend to marry you is an exciting time! Sure, you may get nervous, but practicing those all important words in advance will help to alleviate some of those jitters. Don’t worry if things go awry — remember what you’re there to do – ask the love of your life to commemorate your commitment to each other!
Wedding proposals are a great way to incorporate what your love means to the both of you and should be as unique as the two of you. Cherish the time and make it special!
About the Author: In 2006, Cherie Johnson blended her love of weddings with a business model to start Creative Wedding Favors, the premier site for customizable anniversary, baby and bridal shower, graduation, quinceañera, and wedding favors. Her wedding ideas have also benefited readers of many websites, including Women Of, Wedding Lenox, and The Wedding Guide. Before establishing Creative Wedding Favors, Cherie worked as a professional wedding photographer, capturing all the special moments of the nuptials and ceremony. Visit www.CreativeWeddingFavors.com to find fun, festive favors for any event.
Your wedding day is one of the most important and memorable days of your life. When planning your proposal to your soon-to-be wife, you no doubt will have thought long and hard about how exactly you should execute it in a way which will not only be memorable to the both of you in the future. But also so that it will remain a surprise to her (unless of course she’s been hinting for an engagement!).The same thought and planning must also go into your wedding day as to your wife; this is likely to be all more important than the engagement was. Planning a wedding can take a very long time with many different factors to consider. Regardless of whether you are looking to plan every aspect of your wedding day together or allow your partner to plan the wedding of her dreams, it is a good idea to be aware of what goes into planning a wedding.
One of the key things which should be taken into account before you plan any aspect of your wedding is your finances. Weddings are known for being expensive, so planning out an initial budget before hand is always a good idea. Some couples may find that either set of parents will offer to pay for parts of your overall costs, which is also something to remember when planning the different elements of your wedding. Once you are aware of your financial situation, you can begin with the important planning and details of the wedding. For some, the perfect location can make or break their wedding. Some may have already thought long and hard about a dream location, but it is important to ensure that you visit each potential location with each other to ensure both are happy with the end choice. Depending on the location of your wedding, also think about where you plan to spend your first night as man and wife, and if you are looking to book rooms to spend the night in, think about whether you will be booking for any of your guests also. Once you have decided on the scene for your wedding, book a date which will not only give you enough time to plan the rest of the day, but also so that your guests are well informed of the date they need to save. ‘Save the date’ invitations are a great way to not only announce your wedding celebration, but also to provide your guests with a formal invitation. Invitations can potentially take up a substantial amount of your budget depending on the style and design you are looking for, but this can also help you think of an initial theme for your wedding as a whole. Many women look to having a color theme throughout their wedding whether it be the color of the bridesmaids dresses, lapels on the men and even down to the ways in which the tables at the reception are decorated-all of which adds cost. If your partner is looking to theme your wedding, this may also carry through to your invitations. Before ordering any invitation, ensure you have decided on your guest list as to not risk ordering too many or too little; this will also help you determine who would require a room to be booked for the big day.
Next, you should think about the menu which will be provided at the reception. Depending on the budget you have will heavily determine what you can afford in terms of food, but you may have already discussed this with your partner. Traditionally, guests will be provided with a delicious, traditional meal, but as times have evolved, many couples opt for buffet style food which not only lowers the costs, but also gives the guests more variety as they may not enjoy a set meal. The final part of your big day will be the reception. This is a very important part of the day, as this is the time for everyone to enjoy the day together in a less formal manner, whilst also having some fun in the process. Think about what kind of entertainment you wish to have which not only your guests will enjoy, but you and your new wife also. You may enquire about hiring a DJ, or karaoke facilities or even something a little out of the norm. Your entertainment can sometimes take up a large chunk of your budget, so ensure that the choice you make is one you are completely sure about. Once you have made your decision, enquire about what your first song of the night will be. To many in your family, this will be a great moment as you and your wife take to the dance floor for your first dance. This is a decision you should make together as something which is a little cheesy may make you feel embarrassed as your guests watch you.
A good way to keep track of every aspect of your planning is to keep a check list so you can keep tabs on what you’ve planned, any ideas you’re deciding on, and also the totals of what you’ve spent so far. Typically, a wedding is seen about being all about the bride, but remember, it is your big day too. By putting your input into certain aspects of the wedding, it will not only help make things go smoother, but will ensure you enjoy your day as much as she does.
As the big day nears, both brides and grooms tend to get a bit nervous and uptight about a thousand different details. That’s completely normal, because there’s a lot of expectation and emotion that has been building up while you have been doing your wedding planning. However, as a groom, there are a few things you can do – and a few you should avoid – that can make your wedding day go more smoothly and make it even more special for you and your bride.
1. DO take mental snapshots throughout the day.
Wedding days become so full of activity that most couples find the day is over before they know it. It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement, so make sure you remind yourself throughout the day to take a deep breath and preserve that moment in your mind so you can reflect on it down the road.
2. DON’T piss off the bride.
This may seem obvious, but if you have a bad habit of showing up late to things or tend to drink too much around your buddies and both of these traits frustrate your fiancée to no end, today is the day to make sure neither of these things happen or, for that matter, anything else that may even slightly provoke her. Today your goal is to make her happy to no end, and every ounce of your being should be devoted to this.
3. DO put someone else in charge of wedding day logistics.
Many brides do most of the wedding planning prior to the big day, and it will be impossible to get her to delegate everything on her wedding day. However, it is a very good idea to either hire a day-of wedding planner or recruit the maid-of-honor or another good friend to act as director, general fire marshal (as in the person who puts out fires) and stand-in wedding planner on your wedding day. This way you and your bride can focus on each other and your guests instead of picking up the cake because the bakery’s truck broke down.
4. DON’T plan your bachelor party for the night before.
This is a massively huge don’t, primarily because you want to be able to physically stand up and function at your own wedding. Look at it this way … if you show up to your own wedding horribly hung over, you will hear about it for the rest of your marriage. Not exactly a great beginning to wedded bliss.
5. DO give your bride a keepsake gift the night before.
Many engaged couples have planned either their rehearsal dinner or a family gathering for the night before the wedding, and this is a great time to pull your fiancée aside and give her a small memento, just a little something to show her that your world revolves around her. A really nice touch is to give her something that she can wear during the ceremony (as in something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue), possibly an heirloom piece of jewelry that is from your family.
6. DO bring your wedding license for your officiant to sign.
It’s surprising how many couples forget their wedding license, which needs to be signed and then sent in by your officiant in order for you to be officially married. Just make sure you bring it with you to the church or wherever your ceremony is being held.
7. DO instruct your best man to prepare a PG-rated-or-better toast.
It is also astonishing how many best men either mumble and stammer through an obviously ad-hoc toast or tell some bawdy story about the time long ago when the groom got drunk with a stripper and, well, you get my drift. Don’t assume your best man knows what is in good taste or not; just tell him to keep it clean and sincere. Humor is okay, as long as it doesn’t offend anyone.
8. DO remember to smile.
I’ve seen countless wedding photos of a smiling bride and a groom with a blank look on his face. Some guys do have a hard time showing emotion, and even if they are moved they still look as if they’re doing calculus. So if you’re one of those people who doesn’t naturally smile, remember to flash your pearly whites more often on your big day, because never before and never again in your life will you be photographed this much, and the pictures will be viewed countless times in the coming years. About the Author: Jeff Kear is co-owner of My Wedding Workbook, the next-generation online wedding planning software that’s free, easy-to-use and helps engaged couples manage every wedding detail, from your engagement to your honeymoon and everything in between. Copyright My Wedding Workbook 2009 All rights reserved.