Your wedding day is one of the most significant events of your life. One that couples often envision spending with their closest friends and family. When one of our loved ones has passed, it’s natural to miss them even more during such big events in our lives. Many look for ways of honoring their memory. This is particularly true for those wishing to pay tribute to their Mother, the person who probably would have wanted to be the most involved in your special day.
There are plenty of wonderful ways of honoring and incorporating your Mother’s memory during your entire wedding day. If you’re looking for options, you can use some (or all) of these ideas to help celebrate and reminisce your Mother’s memory.
Honoring Your Mother’s Memory
Create A Memorial Table
There are guestbook tables and hors d’oeuvre tables. Therefore, creating a memorial table would be perfectly acceptable and appropriate. Chances are your guests will treasure the sentiment and will also be thinking of your Mom on your wedding day. On your memorial table you can place a photo, some candles or a lantern, and write something special in her memory. There are likely to be many people at your wedding who knew your Mother. The great idea is to provide a way of guests to write little notes of their own memories and well wishes as well.
Wear Items That Belonged to Her
One of the more well-known wedding traditions says a bride is supposed to wear “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” in order to bring good luck. You can wear something that belonged to your Mother while keeping within this tradition. However, don’t feel limited to just one item. Some brides choose to wear their Mother’s wedding dress while others wear a headpiece or some kind of jewelry. There might be more than one of her belongings that you’d like to wear, and that’s fine too. A locket with your Mothers photo or a broach is another way of keeping her close to your heart during your wedding.
Leave An Open Seat During The Ceremony
It’s natural to feel as though your Mother deserves a seat, even if she isn’t able to take part of the ceremony physically. If you would like to honor her memory and make her feel more a part of your ceremony, then you can arrange a seat to be left unoccupied in the front row just for her. To make her seat a bit more meaningful, you can place a photo or a bouquet, or some other memento on the chair. These items will give her more of a presence, and you’ll have her spirit right there among the rest of your guests.
Give a Toast to Her Memory
Weddings are often full of guests giving their blessings through toasts and speeches. You can certainly use this as an opportunity to bring attention to your Mom’s memory. You, (or someone else), can let everyone know how missed she is, and how she would have loved to have been there. If there was anything she ever said about marriage, or how she envisioned it, you can bring that up as well. You can talk about the influence she had in your life, especially in teaching you how to love, or read a letter she wrote to you as a child. If you’d rather not make a speech, then lighting a candle and sharing a moment of silence in her memory is a simple, yet touching, alternative.
Incorporate Some of Her Favorite Things
You and your guests can also remember your Mom by incorporating some of her favorite things into your wedding. If your Mom had a favorite flower, you can use that in your wedding decorations or your bouquet. If there’s a Mother’s song you know was a particular favorite of hers, then you can have it sung or played during the reception for everyone to dance to. If there’s a particular food, or dessert food that holds a special memory between you two, or one that you just know she loved, you can serve it at your wedding. These personal touches will make her feel more a part of your wedding. Keep in mind so that it’s done in a way that is meant to celebrate her memory, and not overpower the occasion with sadness.
Losing a parent is never easy, but you can still make them a part of your day with these touching options. With these ideas, you’ll be able to party at your wedding and honor your Mother in a style that won’t dampen the mood, but rather show how much she’s missed in a celebratory fashion. Your wedding should be a day of festivity, the way your Mother would have wanted it.
Brides have their friends’ and family’s weddings as a point of reference. Brides also have websites, books, movies and other sources to help shape what the finished event should be. However, not all the details are divulged in one location. There are particular things every bride should know while planning her wedding.
Things Every Bride Should Know
Schedule a food tasting date with your caterer. Try everything on your proposed menu to verify your approval. In addition, have your caterer make additional dishes, like appetizers or desserts, that could give them an up-sell if you decide to add them to the menu. They will be more willing to do so this way.
Honeymoons are for many a trip of a lifetime. Some people are accident prone (like myself). If going on a cruise or booking a vacation package, you may consider medical insurance for your honeymoon vacation. If you have medical insurance, most have out-of-network benefits. BUT, medical insurance offered through your travel agent should be less costly in the long run if someone were to have a health issue.
Do your manicure the day before the wedding. Why? It takes several hours for nail polish to dry. If you are going with a lighter color, be sure to get multiple coats in thin layers.
Create a wow factor at the dinner table. Select different tableware styles. Have your plates in style A, salad bowls in pattern B, appetizer plates in pattern C. You get the idea. Do the same for glassware as well with different glassware styles for water glasses, wine glasses and beer glasses. Not only style but different colors too would be defining your theme.
Many bridesmaids have to pay for their bridesmaids dresses. There’s no reason to give them a dress they will never wear again. Get a color swatch of your expected bridesmaids dresses. Then give the swatch to each bridesmaid and tell them that they get to pick the style of dress, but it must match the color of your swatch. It would be appropriate for you to designate the length of the dress though to match your wedding style.
Are you planning a trip out of the country? Will you need a passport as a way of identification? Did you know that if booking a cruise, your passport must be valid for 6 months AFTER your honeymoon? Be sure to check your passports’ expiration dates!
You have your wedding date. Great! Now, talk to your local florist to get a list of flowers that are in bloom during the same time. You will save LOTS if you buy flowers in bloom the same time as your wedding.
Think you have the perfect location for your wedding reception? Before booking, where are the bathrooms located? Are there enough toilets (1 per 25 guests)? In bad weather, what is option B? Will the parking lot hold number of guests expected? Is there an official closing time?
Want to keep your wedding bouquet to dry the flowers and frame it after your wedding? Plan a second bride’s bouquet to conduct the bouquet toss. This way, the bouquet toss winner can keep her winning prize and you will have preserved your treasure.
Buying wedding related products online can be a big time saver. Two tips of advice if buying online. Know their return policy in case it does not meet the specifications or your expectations. Second, always pay via credit card or Paypal. This way your money is protect in case of a disagreement with your purchase.
Protocol states to send save-the-dates four to six months before your wedding. However, if you are having a destination wedding, send save-the-dates as soon as the details are booked. Wedding guests need extra time to request time off and save money for the trip.
Your groom and groomsmen must try on their tuxedos at the rental shop. The tip is that during the fitting, they must test fit the tuxedo including shoes and cuff links. Nothing should be too tight or too short and be able to dance comfortably in throughout the night.
Most wedding guests will bring wedding presents and gift cards to your wedding reception. Place a “gift table” near the entrance into your wedding reception area. The most important thing you may not know is to have a gift table attendant. This person cannot be part of the wedding party. Their main focus is to insure the safety of your gifts. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
Many brides think to provide out-of-town guests with local wedding maps of wedding locations, hotels and points of interest. However, did you think to add drive times? How much time should guests plan to drive from the airport to the hotel and from the hotel to your wedding venue?
When creating your gift registry, think of items you need to purchase now or in the future. If you are two households coming together, the best option may be a honeymoon gift registry since you have everything for your home already. If you are a young couple just getting started, consider items needed for your home you need to purchase but get a higher quality that will last longer. Such items may include cookware, cutlery, mattress and furniture. Also, be sure to measure furniture space before purchasing furniture.
No one distinct purchase a bride makes for her wedding day will dictate how she feels, acts, and carries herself throughout the day more than her wedding dress.
A bride’s wedding dress shows her personality.
What does a wedding dress say about a bride?
Is the wedding dress a full length dress showing a formal traditional feel or is it just below the knees showing fun and chic?
Does the dress have a veil that the groom must raise in order to kiss his new wife?
How much cleavage is the dress showing? Is the dress off-the-shoulder, strapless, halter, spaghetti straps, etc. Does the desired dress offer the desired reaction from onlookers?
The perfect wedding dress should elicit sighs of jealousy from women and mesmerize stares from men.
How to select a wedding dress? First, check out the different styles of dresses online so you have an idea of what you like. An example would be DressFirst. Second, make an appointment at a local bridal salon to try on dresses. Be sure to bring pictures of the style of dresses you think you like with you to the appointment. Third, keep an open mind. Just because you like a particular style of dress doesn’t mean it will be comfortable or enhance your body style. Don’t forget to set a budget and stick to it! Finally, a dress should be comfortable. If a bride is not going to change out of a wedding dress, a bride will be in the dress for the ceremony – 30 minutes, pictures – 30-60 minutes, and reception – 3-4 hours. Why not be comfortable?
Common styles of wedding dresses:
Ball Gown – Romantic natural or dropped waist set off with full skirt.
A-Line – Think of the capital letter “A”.
Princess – Universally slims and lengthens with seams from the neck to hips.
Sheath – Has a slim profile.
Empire – The empire seam falls just below the bust.
Slip Dress – Similar to a negligee.
When ordering the dress, brides should keep in mind what to wear underneath the dress as well. Discuss this with the dress seller at the time of trying on dresses to get the most comfort.
When should wedding dresses be purchased? The maximum is eight months and the minimum is four months before the big day. We do say no more than eight months as a person’s weight fluctuates over time and no sense in taking any extra risk.
Finding the perfect wedding undergarments can be such a challenge for brides-to-be that we decided to write a second wedding blog article about it. Below are our top three tips on finding the perfect bridal undergarments for your wedding dress and for your wedding night.
Examine the Fabric of your Wedding Dress– Before venturing to find your bridal underwear, really pay attention to the construction of your wedding dress. Is it a silky a-line dress? Then perhaps you should avoid lacey lingerie and pick a bra and panty combination that won’t show under the material. Also, consider how you’d like your body to look in your dress. Our New York wedding photographers often have clients who express sentiments like “Oh, I wish I had bought a push-up bra for my wedding dress, I really wanted to fill out the top the neckline more”, after viewing their wedding photos.
Pick your Lingerie Before your Fitting– Having worked both in the fields of wedding photography and lingerie sales in New York, this is one wedding dress tip that I can honestly say will save you so much time and money! Many brides get fitted for their wedding dress before finding their wedding undergarments which sticks them with the problem of finding bridal underwear and bras that fit with the measurements of their altered dress. Remember, once a dress is altered, it cannot be changed. Find lingerie that that will give you a perfect shape before having a tailor fit your wedding dress.
Wedding Night Lingerie– Many brides relish the chance to shop for delicate white, ivory or cream-colored lace bridal lingerie but that doesn’t you have to! I have seen many brides feel completely uninspired when picking their honeymoon lingerie because they feel like they have to choose a white lingerie bra and panty set. Check out bridal bustiers, corsets and garters. Find something that you feel sexy in, not just something that falls into the stereotypical idea of bridal lingerie! What’s important is that you love how you look and feel on your wedding night.
We truly hope this wedding article was helpful for all you brides searching for your bridal undergarments and wish you the best with your wedding planning. Congrats!
It’s the day of your wedding, and the tips and advice you received from your mother, friends, and loved ones have paid off and you look and feel beautiful. Time has been spent arranging your hair just so, making up your face perfectly, and getting you ready for your big day. Many times, however, brides just consider the big picture – and often forget how uncomfortable they may be during the ceremony or reception in a hot, heavy dress with four-inch heels. It’s a bad scenario, but it happens. To keep you up, dancing, and mingling with your guests, here are a few of the most essential bride must-haves for your wedding day. With a little forethought and a carefully packed cocktail bag, you can be prepared for whatever the day has in store with these wedding tips!
The Top 10 Bride Must-Haves – Essentials for Brides
1. Comfortable shoes: One of the most essential bride must-haves is comfortable shoes. Imagine having to dance and walk around in those four-inch heels for a few hours. Sounds painful, doesn’t it? Not buying comfortable shoes is the reason that many brides switch to flip-flops during the reception. Though a quick wardrobe change is one option, consider testing out the shoes you buy well in advance. One of the more routine wedding tips that experts suggest is to walk around your home to break the shoes in and ensure you don’t get any annoying blisters in the process. After all, squinting and wincing in your pictures will not be pretty. And if you’re insistent on those pretty, but painful four-inch heels, bring along another pair of more comfortable shoes for the after party – some simple flats will do the trick!
2. Breathable gown: Much like your shoes, one of the best bride must-haves is a wedding dress that moves with you. A constricting dress will make you cringe as much as those shoes do, and tugging and jerking the fabric will damage it, not to mention alert everyone to the fact that you’re extremely uncomfortable. Try your dress on beforehand. When trying it on at the shop, if it feels too tight, then your wedding day will be no different. Move around and get a feel for the dress to ensure that you are at ease on your big day.
3. Waterproof mascara: Oh, there will be lots of tears shed – by you, your mother, your close friends, and family. But, you’ll be heartbroken when you see your mascara making bee lines all over your face. One of my favorite wedding tips is to wear waterproof mascara to combat the ‘raccoon look.’ Wearing waterproof mascara on your wedding day will keep your makeup looking fresh, and you’ll rest assured that you have no smudges to worry about.
4. Long-lasting lipstick: From eating to kissing, your lipstick has many opportunities to fade or smear away. Before deciding on one brand or color, try it out for awhile. Wear it while doing all the things you normally do to see if it has the possibility of fading, smudging, or smearing. And make sure you pack the tube of lipstick in your ‘bride must-haves’ bag!
5. Durable antiperspirant: Whether your dress is sleeveless or not, antiperspirant that stands the test of time is an absolute necessity. You want to stay clean, fresh, and sweet-smelling throughout the ceremony and reception, and one of the many wedding tips that experts suggest is to use long-lasting antiperspirant. The only way to guarantee this, of course, is with durable and/or prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirant. This extra layer of protection will give you more confidence in whatever you’re doing.
6. Small compact mirror: Throughout the ceremony and reception, you’ll be relieved that you had your little compact mirror on hand. Tucked away in a small cocktail purse with your other bride must-haves, it’s just a little bit of added confidence. You can quickly check for makeup smudges and reapply as needed or see if any food particles have become lodged in visible places.
7. Aspirin or Ibuprofen: Headaches happen. And so do aching limbs – usually at the most inopportune times. And as far as valuable wedding tips go, be prepared by adding a little tube of aspirin or ibuprofen to your ‘bride must-haves’ cocktail purse. Even if you don’t need it, someone else just might.
8. Stain removal pen: You can find these handy, little pens everywhere. Plus, they’re small enough to be tucked into your cocktail purse filled with your other ‘bride must-haves.’ Just make sure to spot test the pen on a discreet part of your dress before applying it anywhere during the actual event. Some contain bleach, which may harm the fabric. For quick removal of a tiny, but noticeable stain, however, these pens are a god-send.
9. Hairbrush/comb: Tame those frizzies and stay beautiful throughout the day. Another of my favorite wedding tips is to purchase a fold-up brush, which is ideal for a small purse with precious space. A quick dab of lipstick and one or two brushes through your hair will have you ready to meet and greet with guests.
10. Emery board: There is nothing more annoying than a jagged nail. Keep your freshly manicured fingers looking lovely by taking a quick swipe of the emery board (or nail file) across it should one break or chip.
More Than Just Wedding Tips – Valuable Advice
These ten bride must-haves and wedding tips will ensure that you are prepared for your big day. Weather the day effortlessly by testing out your wardrobe, makeup, and hair in advance as well as by packing a little cocktail purse with some of the essential bride must-haves listed above, like that tube of lipstick, compact mirror, aspirin, stain removal pen, comb, and emery board. Even if you don’t need them, you’ll be glad you had them. Think of these bride must-haves and wedding tips as a little helpful layer of extra protection.
About the Author: In 2006, Cherie Johnson decided to blend her love of weddings with a business model by starting Creative Bride, a one-stop shop for baby and bridal shower, graduation, quinceañera, anniversary, and wedding favors. Cherie’s helpful tips have been published on many websites including The Wedding Source, Little Wedding Guide, and The American Chronicle. Over the past few years, Cherie has helped countless couples and families make their big events a success. Prior to starting the company, she worked as a professional wedding photographer. Browse Creative Bride’s colorful selection of favors by visiting www.Creative-Bride.com
Your Bridesmaid No Longer Your BFF? When to Give Your Bridesmaid the Boot.
by Stacy Dymalski
Anyone who said best friends are forever never planned a wedding. Just because you’ve known your bridesmaids since kindergarten doesn’t mean they all envision your wedding day as the same spectacular event you’ve dreamed of since you were 12.
Ask any Wedding Planner, and they’ll tell you that picking your bridesmaids is one of the most important decisions in planning your wedding. And even though you may feel obligated to choose someone you’ve known your whole life, you should consider the purpose of a bridesmaid before deciding who she should be. First and foremost, a bridesmaid is there to witness the commitment you are about to make to your future husband and to emotionally support you throughout your marriage. So if you’re considering a bridesmaid who A) doesn’t like the guy you’re marrying, B) doesn’t believe in marriage, or C) hates men, you might want to think about giving her some other ceremonial task, like managing the guest book. The last thing you need is a scowling bridesmaid in every picture.
Bridesmaids also help fulfill many of the small jobs that need to be done the day you walk down the aisle. In many ways, your bridesmaids are your ambassadors, representing you to your guests and the people you hire. So if you have a friend who sometimes forgets to show up, has colorful language, or likes to get tipsy at parties and tell embarrassing stories about your childhood, you may not want her front and center at your wedding.
But even with careful consideration, it’s possible to unwittingly pick a bridesmaid who turns out to be a horror show. If that happens, it’s okay to fire her. So where do you draw the line on bad behavior? Anything that resembles the following is just cause for the boot:
1. She misses important wedding-related functions like fittings, appointments, parties, or rehearsals.
2. She’s so wrapped up in the drama in her life (like a break-up, stress at work, problems with her children, etc.) that she can’t focus on her bridesmaid duties.
3. She criticizes every decision you make (but doesn’t offer any realistic options).
4. She tries to take control of your wedding plans. (Remember this is YOUR wedding. Her input is appreciated, but not the final word.)
5. She has a negative attitude about the man you’re marrying (and/or his family).
6. She makes changes to your existing wedding plans (like the seating chart or flower choices) without consulting you first.
7. She takes it upon herself to have her bridesmaid dress altered to include a plunging neckline that would make Britney Spears blush.
8. She refuses to help plan pre-wedding functions such as a shower, hens’ parties, or a girls’ night out. (Or worse yet, she says she’ll plan them, but then doesn’t.)
9. She tells your fiancé about your past 10 boyfriends when you’ve only told him about four (and he’s not impressed).
10. She insists on being the center of attention in any group of people.
It may seem obvious that these bridesmaids must be sacked, but when the culprit in question is your sister-in-law, a favorite co-worker, or a life long friend, guilt can prevent you from making the hard choice. Above all, you have to ask yourself, is my bridesmaid causing me more undue pain than if she weren’t my bridesmaid? If the answer is yes, she needs to go.
So how does one fire a bridesmaid? Start by making a list of her inappropriate behaviors and privately talk to her about each one and why it bothers you. If she’s truly sorry and vows to change her conduct, you might give her another chance. If she becomes defensive, take the high road and let her have her say. When she’s finished calmly explain that you value her friendship and want to stay friends, but that every friend doesn’t have to be a bridesmaid. If she chooses to sever your friendship, then ask yourself, was she really that good of a friend to begin with? Only dear friends want what’s best for you when planning your wedding. And let’s face it, isn’t that who you want surrounding you on one of the most important days of your life?
About The Author: Girl Friday Weddings www.girlfridayweddings.com.au are Personal Assistants and Wedding Planners are located in Sydney, Australia. Specialists in affordable part-planning, they pride themselves in helping out at any stage of the planning process and are particularly apt at assisting the last-minute Bride.
Some useful ways to make sure you stay calm in the run up to the big day.
Photographers, cakes, musicians, dresses, flowers, menus, decorations…the list of things to organize, source and research for your Wedding day is absolutely endless. Nothing is ever simple and every Bride wants to research and check out all the services available. It takes time, effort and patience and with family and friends often wanting their say too on your choices, it can be very stressful. So how do you stay calm in the run up to the biggest day of your life and how do you make sure you are a serene and most importantly, a HAPPY Bride on your big day and not a Bridezilla.
Here are a few tips to help make sure you arrive looking as truly beautiful as you can be, with your sanity intact.
1. Plan well – Nothing is more important to ensure the smooth running of your day than thorough and careful planning. Research suppliers thoroughly. Seek out different quotes, different companies and compare their services and costs. Keep a file with all your suppliers details and keep a financial spreadsheet to keep a track of spending. Keep in regular touch with all your suppliers and confirm everything with them at least 2 weeks before your big day.
2. Invest in yourself – Take regular time out for a massage or facial or treat. It helps you escape the planning for a few hours and helps keep you calm and happy. Don’t feel guilty about it, the time you spend on yourself will mean you return to the planning process feeling refreshed and more energetic.
3. Enlist help – Turn to a trusted friend or family member to help take some of the pressure off you. It’s very tempting to want to control every single aspect of your day, but sharing some of the chores can really help lighten the load. Having a trusted friend helping you will prove invaluable. No matter how small the task they’ll be pleased to be asked to get involved. Mums are especially keen to offer a helping hand, even if its just tying ribbon to the balloons, accept the offer and use their help to keep you calm.
4. Take time out – Make sure you and your fiance take some regular time away from the planning. It’s easy to let every single spare moment turn into another chance to plan something, but you’ll find just taking a day off a week, to spend time together will really help keep you balanced and focused. You may want to talk about your wedding every second of the day, but it can be exhausting and can actually increase your stress. A little time out can make the planning much more fun.
5. Choose calm and helpful people – On the big day itself surround yourself with calm and sensible people. Chose those who can cope in a crisis, and are practical and understanding. You can afford to be selfish on your big day and only allow those who support and help you to be around as you prepare for the day ahead.
6. Relax and ENJOY– on the day itself, it’s time to really relax and enjoy every second. DON’T waste your time stressing and panicking. The day passes by so incredibly quickly, it is such a shame to waste it worrying and getting stressed. You have hired good suppliers and entrusted responsibility to them, so sit back, allow them to worry for you and have THE most amazing day of your life.
About the Author: Catherine Marston offers a Bespoke Wedding memoir writing service for Bride and Grooms www.thebigdayreporter.com and is a National Television Journalist.
For more information about Bridezillas, visit the TV show of the same name – Bridezillas.
With wedding planning, it can get very hectic quickly. That’s why you need a “plan for your wedding planning” as odd as this may sound. You should determine early on what tasks will have to be completed to successfully plan the wedding on time and within budget.
Things to Do Very Early On
There are some things that just can’t wait when it comes to wedding planning. First, secure your photographer of choice with a money deposit. Once you have a wedding date set, you can talk with a photographer and schedule the photo session for your bridal portraits and secure their services for your wedding day. The reason you’ll want to book this very early is because photographers (really good ones) are usually booked months in advance, and many weddings are on weekend days.
Find a wedding dress early on as well so you’ll have time for fitting, ordering, and alterations (if needed). The bridesmaids will need plenty of time for their dresses so keep them informed also. Choose wedding colors and possibly a wedding theme before you start planning. Once you know the colors, you can start shopping for wedding favors and decorations early and possibly find some great bargains when you’re not in a rush.
Choose a Location for Your Wedding
Probably one of the most important things you’ll do is choose a location for your wedding. If having the wedding in a church, consider the types of decorations you will need and where you might hold the reception. If planning a wedding outdoors, you’ll have to take possible weather conditions into consideration – and do have a backup plan! Pick a location with great lighting, or plan to illuminate with additional lighting. The location is important to know how many decorations you will need, depending on the size of the building or area, and how many guests you can invite.
Hire a Wedding Director
A wedding director should be booked early on as well so you can be sure to have one when the day arrives. The director can help with last minute planning and the formalities of the ceremony. You’ll likely consider the director to be a lifesaver when the day finally arrives!
Order Decorations, Flowers, Invitations, and Wedding Party Gifts
The little details can cause big headaches if you don’t do these early on. You’ll need invitations early enough to address them and mail them at least a month ahead of the wedding date. Flowers and corsages should be ordered well in advance along with small appreciation gifts for the wedding party including bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc.
To save time and possibly money, you might be able to order many of the small wedding items online. There are thousands of wedding websites that carry almost every decoration, gift, or invitation you can think of at reasonable prices. The wedding websites also usually offer great tips on wedding planning for your benefit.
Don’t forget about the wedding rings, catering, wedding songs, reception decorations, punch, food, and of course, the wedding cake. These are all crucial parts of wedding planning and have to be taken care of early on to minimize stress. If you take care of the wedding planning far in advance, you’ll see things fall into place and be able to enjoy your wedding as it was meant to be!
About the Author: Chris Robertson is a published author of Majon International. All Rights Reserved. Copyright 2007 (Tue Jul 15 2008) Majon International. Majon International is one of the worlds MOST popular internet marketing and internet advertising companies on the web. Visit their main business resource web site at: http://majon.com