As brides and grooms plan their wedding day, they must also think of others as well. Brides and grooms are told by many that the spotlight is on them as this is “their day”. However, when planning all the details of the whole day, you must also consider the thoughts and feelings of those in attendance. Our horror story tells of a bride and groom doing their own thing.
The wedding takes place on a beautiful summer day with blue skies and majestic mountains at a venue big enough to hold about 200 people. All guests arrive to music playing to set the mood. The DJ is contracted to play three hours but it was discussed to possibly play later into the evening depending on if the party is rocking.
All the early festivities go on without a hitch. All guests have their bellies full of a home-style cooking buffet. The guests circle the dance floor while all the formal dances take place after the meal including the first dance, father daughter dance and mother son dance. Then, the bouquet and garter are tossed to all of the single people in attendance. The cake cutting takes place next, giving everyone another photo opportunity while the bride smashes cake into the groom’s face.
All of the formal festivities are “out of the way”. The bride, groom, rest of the wedding party and guests can finally relax. All the men can take their ties off and the women can take off their shoes and just unwind from the stress of the wedding day planning and experiencing. It’s time to let loose and party.
This is the time for the DJ to shine and get people on the dance floor! The DJ plays a few songs and not many people congregate to the dance floor. As you can imagine, the scenery is breathtaking and all in attendance want to soak it up. Even though the music fits perfect with the wedding theme, setting and everyone’s music tastes, there was more important things to do – enjoy the once in a lifetime mountain view. Picture yourself at a mountain lake, temperature is mid-seventies and the sun is setting, and the sky is lit with blues, purples, reds, oranges and yellows. EVERYONE would rather be outside than dancing inside.
With 1.5 hours left in the contract, the DJ played for another hour while many were taking in the scenery and the music at a distance. The sun sets with a half hour left in the music contract and people start wondering back to the lodge. However, the bride and groom are nowhere to be seen!
Time is up! The DJ has played for three hours and has met the contractual obligation. However, the DJ remembers a discussion with the bride and groom at their introductory meeting to possibly extend the contracted time. But where are the bride and groom to discuss this? They are found in a boat on the middle of the lake. What are you thinking as a bride and groom to leave your guests and go do your own thing? What, as a DJ, do you do in trying to make the right decision?
The DJ asks the parents of the bridal couple what to do. They are saying to pack it up as the bride and groom are no where around. But they are not the ones paying the bill? What should the DJ do?
Well, the DJ decides to pack it up as the take-down time will be about an hour or more because of the sound system and lighting. With about 10 minutes left of loading up the vehicle, the bride and groom finally arrive. They ask why there is no music playing and why the DJ was leaving. After further explanation, the bridal couple understood.
However, the bridal couple was asking to put everything back together and start playing again. But, they didn’t have enough to cover all the costs of playing for the next few hours. What would you do in this scenario? The DJ wants the bride, groom and guests to have a memorable wedding day but what a terrible predicament.
As the DJ drives away, so does the memory of wedding that could have been as breathtaking as the scenery. What do you think and what would you do in the same situation?
While watching reality TV shows, many shows’ themes are “Expect The Unexpected”. While working with many bridal couples as they plan their weddings, I tell them the same thing. I tell them that something may go wrong. It could be big or it could be little. It all depends on how you handle the situation. Her’s a Grandma wedding horror story.
Bride and Groom’s perspective: Bride prepares for the wedding ceremony. She finishes putting on her dress, final hair and make-up touch-ups and Dad sees his daughter for the first time in her wedding dress. She has her Mom and Dad walk her down the aisle. Groom prepares for the wedding ceremony. He finishes putting on his tux, verifying the rings are ready and has a drink with the groomsmen. He makes sure everyone is seated and then walks to the alter awaiting his bride.
The ceremony goes on without a hitch. It lasts in total pf about fifteen minutes to exchange vows, conduct the unity candle ceremony and also the rose exchange. The ceremony is a touching moment between families and not many dry eyes in the crowd.
After the ceremony is complete, friends continue onto the wedding reception. The bride, groom and immediate family stay back at the ceremony site for family pictures. The photographer has a must-have list of pictures to take of both sides of the family. All the planned posed pictures are great and the kids were well behaved and managed to take good pictures.
All the pictures have been taken and the immediate family make their way to the reception venue. Guests already at the reception a co-mingling and enjoying the specialty drinks with appetizers. Guest check out the table favors and centerpieces. They also check out the wedding cake.
DJ’s perspective: The wedding is an afternoon wedding starting at 2 P.M. So, getting to the reception at 1 P.M. is plenty of time to set-up and get ready for the music entertainment. As guests arrive at about 2:30 P.M., jazz music is playing as background music. With the likes of Michael Buble, Frank Sinatra and Harry Connick Jr., guests are in the pre-festivities mood.
The initial family members arrive from the post-ceremony pictures. After saying their first hello’s to guests already at the reception, the first thing to see is the wedding cake. Where is the wedding cake? The cake is located on a low platform in the back of the room to the left side. The right side has the DJ playing tunes.
Grandma Wedding Horror Story
The wedding party proceed to the view the wedding cake when the unthinkable happens. Grandma doesn’t see that the wedding cake is on a platform and trips. She falls on the platform and cannot get up. Grandma breaks her hip. The bride’s Dad (Grandmother’s son) calls 9-1-1. The ambulance arrives and Grandma is taken out of the reception venue on a stretcher. Instead of a bride and groom grand entrance, Grandma has a grand exit.
Yes, this is a true American horror story with real events. No matter how tragic the story is, the party must go on. Grandma left with a relative to the hospital. Everyone at the reception was very distraught and worried about Grandma. However, the focus returned very quickly back to the bride and groom. The rest of the reception was happy and somber all rolled into one. In the end, the most important thing about the day is that the bride and groom are married.
A wedding day is all about the bride and groom. No, scratch that. It’s all about the bride, not the bass. Yes, that’s the way it should be. A bride thinks about her wedding day her whole life. Stereotypically as she grows up, the bride looks for a man to fill the role that her Daddy has played her whole life. So there are no excused for a bride not to include her Dad into the wedding day festivities. Parents of the bride are traditionally responsible for paying for the wedding. However, Dad should be included in a wedding for more than his wallet.
Daddy’s Not So Little Girl
There are three must-have moments to include Dad into a bride’s wedding day.
1. Who are the people normally seeing the bride get dressed in her wedding dress? The bride will have her maid/matron of honor, bridesmaids, Mother, Grandmother and any other special guest. Men are no where to be found during the process. However, a very special moment for the bride and her Dad is when she is fully ready for the wedding ceremony and Dad is the first person to see is daughter before any of the wedding guests. When Dad sees her daughter for the first time in her wedding dress can be a very touching and private moment. Brides – we recommend creating time for Dad before the wedding ceremony to have a personal conversation and thank him for being there for you.
2. Every Dad in the world dreams about the day they walk their daughter down the aisle. Many brides also choose to have both their Dad and Mom walk herself down the aisle. This is great too. No matter who the bride decides to walk with her down the wedding aisle, asking them to walk with you should be a special moment. This will be as big as the physical action of the walking. The asking of walking down the aisle can be capped with a special hand written note or a special memento of the event.
3. Many men are known to not be the best dancers. However, there is one occasion that they dream about dancing. This is dancing with their daughter at her wedding. The event is so big that it has its own identity as the Father Daughter Dance. It is considered one of the formal dance centerpieces at a wedding reception. So brides, do not deprive of your Dad of this special moment at your wedding as you will always be Daddy’s Little Girl.
You are looking for the right DJ for your wedding. Most couples start by asking family and friends if they know of any good wedding DJs in the area they have seen and can recommend. No matter how many DJ companies provided, all bridal couples will look online to read customer reviews on such sites as Yelp and WeddingWire. After reading reviews, you may narrow down or increase your list of potential music entertainers at your wedding to about three. This will give you a good idea of how much a “good” wedding DJ will cost. Next, you call each DJ company on the phone and tell them what your are looking for in a DJ. They tell you about their services and expected fees. Get it right DJ and don’t screw up!
Get It Right DJ – Hire The Right DJ
In the month leading up to the wedding, you correspond with the DJ letting them know what styles of music you like and the theme of the wedding so they can dress appropriately. You also provide the DJ with a SPECIFIC list of songs to be played at the ceremony and reception and songs not to be played. The reception song lists includes songs for all formal dances. During the process, you create a friendly bond with the DJ of your wedding. Typically DJs are very personable and entertain crowds. DJs are cliched as being entertainers – as they should be and generate friends very easily.
Your wedding day is here. The wedding ceremony goes on without a hitch. Bridal party members tell you the reception area is ready and all set. The wedding cake has arrived and looks beautiful, the uplighting transformed the reception venue into fantasyland and the DJ is already playing music for early arriving guests.
The time has come. The moment you have been waiting since first planning every detail of the wedding reception. The bride and groom grand entrance into the reception facility. You hear the heart pounding music playing and the DJ pumping up the crowd with the anticipation of all of your wedding guests waiting for you to arrive. The hall doors swing open and there you are. You have arrived!
The DJ announces, “It is my pleasure to introduce to you the NEW Mr. and Mrs. Brett Michaels”. BAM! It feels like you have been hit by a Mack truck. Your last name is not Michaels. It is Mickels. Yes, this does happen and does happen too often.
Please do not leave it up to the DJ to know the pronunciation of your name. Please have a member of the wedding party or a good friend of the family speak to the DJ before your entrance and be sure they can pronounce your names correctly. This must be done at the wedding reception as a reminder to the DJ for any name. Sometimes the DJ will not speak to bridal couples the last two weeks leading up to their wedding day and may forget the proper pronunciation.